We haven't told our families about IVF, and my friends all have kids. I go to appointments alone during the day and pretend everything is fine at work.
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Feeling isolated is very common, especially in India where fertility treatment is still often kept private. Keeping it secret can protect you from unwanted advice, but it can also mean carrying a heavy load without support. Some ideas that may help: - You don't have to tell everyone. Choosing even one trusted person, a sibling, an old friend or a colleague, can make a big difference. - Ask your partner to come to some appointments, or set aside time to talk about how each of you is coping, not just the medical plan. - Peer communities like this one can help you feel understood, as long as you remember that medical decisions should be made with your doctor. - A counsellor can be a confidential space to say things you can't say elsewhere. - Small routines that are just for you, like a walk, music or prayer, can give some steadiness. Loneliness that continues for weeks can slide into depression. If you notice persistent sadness, withdrawal from things you used to enjoy, changes in sleep or appetite, or any thoughts of self-harm, please see a doctor or reach out to a mental-health helpline urgently.
Community answers are shared experience and general information, not medical advice. For anything about your own treatment, ask your doctor. If you're struggling, Tele-MANAS (14416, 24×7) is there to listen.
My cousin and two close friends announced pregnancies this month. I'm happy for them but I cried after each one and now I feel like a terrible person.
Every gathering turns into 'any good news?' and advice about temples and diets. I dread it.
I cry often, we argue about money and next steps, and I feel I'm failing. Does everyone feel like this?
I've been feeling overwhelmed with tests and appointments. My doctor mentioned a counsellor, but I feel like I should be able to handle this on my own.
